Anonymous asked: is it wrong that im having feelings for girls.. im a girl btw? im not homophobic but im scared i just dont know what im feeling..
its not wrong! you can’t help how you feel, don’t be ashamed of your feelings xx
Anonymous asked: it's my friend, she turned 15 not too long ago, she's never had a boyfriend or a first kiss etc, and she pretends she doesn't mind but I know she does.... but the thing is, she's actually really pretty! it's just she's shadowed by this other friend, and I want to help? :s
You need to sit and talk to her about and explain how amazing she is to her, if you knows shes got someone like you by her side she’ll automatically feel so much better. Tell her these things sometimes take time, they aren’t just going to happen like that and if they did then it wouldn’t be very special. Someone out there is going to be perfect for her, theres no need for her to feel ashamed or embarrassed, loads and loads of people haven’t had their first kiss by 15, it will come and it will feel so special, just make sure she knows shes not alone and your always going to be there for her if she needs to talk about it.xx
Anonymous asked: I'm jealous of my best friend she's cool and pretty and popular and I just feel second best compared to her :'(
hun, if shes that popular and chooses you as her best friend over everyone else then you must really be something special, dont put yourself down like that. you will not be second best to her, you will be first above anyone else. Talk to her about it and tell her how you feel. all you need sweetheart is a bit more confidence to yourself, you are beautiful as well and you don’t need to compare yourself to anyone else!xx
intergalactic-monkey asked: Okay, this is hard to say and I can't help it. I've had an eating disorder and I know thats something super serious. I still think I could have a better body. yeah, everyone says that everyone is perfect that way they are and I think its all complete bullshit. Any thoughts on ways to stop thinking that I'm disgusting?
okay hun, dont be ashamed at all because i know exactly how you feel. Im gonna share something with you, i have starved myself for days and days just to feel beautiful and better about myself and i’ve made myself sick and everything, but at the end of the day, it hasnt made any difference to how i feel about myself. It doesn’t make me feel any better. You have to start accepting that you are who you are and nothing can change that, you’ve got to embrace your insecurities no matter how stupid it sounds. You are beautiful and the day you start accepting yourself everything will fall into place. People love you for who you are you don’t need to starve yourself or anything to fit in or be more popular, you’ll only hurt the people you love and the people that love you. You are perfect to them even if you don’t see it, everyone else does. Don’t push away compliments, people don’t call you beautiful for no reason, just start believing in yourself darling, because its all in your head.xxx
Anonymous asked: whats one of the main reasons not to kill yourself?
suicide is never the right option, no matter how low your rock bottom is you can always rise above it and get better, no matter how hard it is, trust me, you can. You dont know what the future holds for you and to throw it all away is really not the right thing to do, there could be amazing things in your future to come and dont let yourself lose out on the future, you never know what it might bring. You are worthy of life. You are so so brave and nothing will defeat you xxx
Anonymous asked: my girlfriend wont tell her parents that we are together, its hard for us to hide being together and i just dont get why she cant pluck up the courage to tell them about us? she says they will react badly but i just want them to know and we can be more open about our relationship
if she wont tell her parents about you because they are going to react badly, then shes obviously nervous and scared about telling them, they could not allow her to be in a relationship and so she wont tell them, it might be for the best if they dont know, if they did they might try to break you up? i think you need to tell your girlfriend how you feel but you need to take into account how shes feeling, she obviously thinks its the best thing to do and shes worried, try and be there for her and talk to her about it, you need to give her time and try not to hassle her about it, as long as you two are happy thats all that should matter yes? good luck x
Anonymous asked: sometimes i draw a face on my bum and put glasses on it and take photos of it, i really enjoy it but i feel ashamed afterwards :/ i don't know what the right thing to do is...
if you are feeling ashamed afterwards then its probably not the right thing to be doing, even if it may be fun at the time its not a nice feeling to feel ashamed after you’ve done something, try find something else to entertain you like going out with your friends or listening to music when your alone and stuff, in the end though it may be a little bit strange but your not hurting anyone so your not in the wrong
Anonymous asked: i have no friends because i smell so bad, i really don't know what to do :s i've tried having a shower but it just doesn't work!
you might have a BO problem or something? i dont want that to sound harsh, its very common and you shouldnt be ashamed, you should talk to your doctor or GP and they will suggest things to you that will actually work and get rid of the smell, dont be ashamed or to scared to go and see your doctor, they will not laugh at you and they will only want to help, good luck<3
Anonymous asked: i feel very sexually attracted to ron in the first harry potter film, is this wrong because he's so young?
he was thirteen in that film so it depends on how old you are?
Anonymous asked: i'm ginger and my friends always make jokes about it, i pretend to laugh but really its killing me inside :(
aww hun:( basically you really need to tell them its hurting your feelings, if they are really your friends they should understand when you tell them and they’ll stop doing it.. because you are laughing along with them they see no wrong in carrying on making jokes, but as soon as they see its actually hurting you they should realise not to carry on with it, if this doesnt work and they carry on making jokes then it becomes teasing and can become bullying come back to me if it carries on, i’ll be here and i’ll always help, goodluck<3
Anonymous asked: i have a bladder problem and i always wee all over my friends. its really getting me down, help? :/
you’ll need to see your doctor about it, dont be embarrassed to tell them, they hear loads of stories everyday and many will be more embarrassing than yours, good luck.
Anonymous asked: is it wrong that i'm attracted to my cat?xox
i dont want to upset you and dont be ashamed but it isnt really normal to be attracted to animals, maybe you should talk to someone about it other than me? is it just your cat or cats in general?
Anonymous asked: im a self harmer, you can post this because its anon so yeah, but im getting erges and dont know what to do, help?
first of all, its really good that you’re trying to stop, and resisting the erges can be really hard but what you’ve got to think about is that feeling you get after cutting or whatever you do to self harm, even though you may feel a release at the time but afterwards it doesnt make any difference and you still have the problems you started off with.. if its the only way you feel a release from your pain you can come to me everytime you feel like self harming and just message me and tell me everything, do it un-anon and i’ll reply privately or anon and i’ll post it, whatever makes you comfortable, there are also projects you can start like the butterfly project, the butterfly project has helped a lot of people and whenever you feel an erge to self harm you draw a butterfly on where you were going to do it, then you name it after someone you love, after that if you self harm, you kill your butterflies and cause them pain and it represents everytime you hurt yourself, you hurt everyone you love, so stay strong and im here :) good luck<3
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